Friday 26 September 2014

OLS Reflections Khamsa



OLS Reflections Khamsa by Omar Cherif, One Lucky Soul


  • The less we need, the happier we become.

  • Learning how to peacefully disagree is an art everyone ought to master.

  • When we smile to life, it smiles back. Sometimes not right back, but eventually it does.

  • Once we stop obsessing over what we seek, it will come to us. 

  • You are treated by others based on what you allow. 

  • There is a fine line between naivety and optimism; out of goodwill, some people tend to cross that line. 


  • For a healthy and balanced outcome, being opinionated must be paired with being informed.

  • Once you start seeing through people’s bullshit, it’s almost impossible to pretend that you can’t see.

  • Nothing is more alienating than being somewhere full of people and realising, perhaps mid-conversation, that what they talk about belongs to a totally different plane of existence than the one in which you exist.

  • Knowing what you don’t want is a significant step towards what you do want.


OLS Reflections Khamsa by Omar Cherif, One Lucky Soul



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Monday 15 September 2014

OLS Reflections Vier



    OLS Reflections Vier by Omar Cherif, One Lucky Soul

    • The problem with black-and-white thinking is that you never get to see the rainbow.

    • As we get older, one appreciates beauty in all things more acutely. Not out of necessity, but out of recognition.




    • Your greatness lies in seeing the greatness in others, especially when they don’t see it themselves.




    • Make it a habit to find joy wherever you go and in whatever you do.




    • The secret to reaching the listening hearts lies in speaking truth in humility.




    • Transcend all bullshit, especially your own.




    • Fear of the unknown is the oldest and most destructive kind of fear. Exchange it with curiosity and see how far that will take you.




    • Everyone has a spiritual calling; seek and you shall find it.




    • They first try to convince you there is a box, then they challenge you to think outside it. The truth is, there was never a box; there is no box and there never will be. Your only limitation lies in who you think you are — your ego.




    • Follow no crowd; and the crowd may eventually follow you.
      OLS Reflections Vier by Omar Cherif, One Lucky Soul



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      Friday 12 September 2014

      Poème Tragique



      Hated, ill-fated, x-rated

      Labels in society are integrated



      Two souls were isolated, segregated 

      Mon n pop were kids when they mated

      Some months later she was impregnated

      
He was miseducated, medicated, sedated 

      She was young and manipulated when she deviated

      Penetrated and fornicated
      All her short life humiliated, it never ameliorated

      Alienated, from the streets she graduated

      To hide the pain now she’s opiated, 
unconsciously intoxicated
 


      When she met him she felt exhilarated

      Thought emancipated, all her life reevaluated 

      Things between them accelerated, she stated 

      Their inner demons congregated and amalgamated
      
Unseparated, they were still kiddos, unilluminated


      ***

      

But then things got heated 
      She felt cheated, defeated
      Him, maltreated and mistreated


      ***

      Then 

one day baby was irritated and nauseated
      
constipated not vaccinated
      
dehydrated, behind the door gated 

      Mom n pop wasted till ambulated 

      And the poor baby’s life was checkmated



      Devastated and dissipated 

      Would they now be liberated or annihilated?

 






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      Thursday 11 September 2014

      Wednesday 10 September 2014

      How ‘XOXO’ Came To Mean Hugs & Kisses



      How ‘XOXO’ Came To Mean Hugs & Kisses by Omar Cherif, One Lucky Soul

      Have you ever wondered about
      the letters ‘X’ and ‘O’ we cutely add to our correspondence in e-mails, messages, and letters as a lovey-dovey signature? Some of us did. After doing a little research I found that no one knows for sure the exact origin, which got me even more curious. Here are some of the available speculations about those universal symbols.


      For the
      X’, it is known that in the Middle Ages when many people were unable to read or write, documents were often signed using an X. Kissing the X represented an oath to fulfill obligations specified in the document and to demonstrate sincerity. Eventually, the X and the kiss became synonymous. Once it became a sacred symbol, it came to mean “faith and fidelity.”

      Another theory suggests that
      X’ first started being used as a substitute for “Christ” by religious scholars about a millennium ago. Some said even earlier with the rise of Christianity, because this is how ultimately Xmas became an alternative for Christmas, and later Xian for Christian. However, the X’ here is not actually the English X we are familiar with, but rather the Greek letter Chi, which is the first letter in the Greek word for “Christ” represented by a symbol similar to the letter X in the modern Roman alphabet.

      What we do know according to the Oxford English Dictionary is, the first usage of Xs to mean kisses came in a letter by a priest, Gilbert White, in 1763:

      I am with many a xxxxxxx and many a Pater noster (Our Father) and Ave Maria (Hail Mary), Gil. White.

      Although it seems here that the priest may have actually meant “blessings” not “kisses”. The reason why it is believed so is that there has been no single usage of X that could mean a kiss for a whole century after that letter.

      By the mid-19th century, there were numerous references to
      X’ meaning “kiss”, such as in Aunt Judy’s Magazine which was published circa 1866-1885.

      How ‘XOXO’ Came To Mean Hugs & Kisses by Omar Cherif, One Lucky Soul


      As for the
      ‘O’, the origin is even more obscure.

      The most popular theory builds on the earlier theory regarding ‘X’ meaning ‘Christ’. It goes that the
      O’ is of North American descent; and when illiterate Jewish immigrants — or those who could not use Latin alphabet letters — were unable to sign their own John Hancock upon arriving to the U.S and refusing to use the customary X due to its association with the cross of Christianity. So instead, they got used to drawing a circle on documents as a signature.

      Incidentally, many etymologists believe this is how the racial slur for Jewish people “kike” came about. The Yiddish word for “circle” is kikel (pronounced KY-kul), and for “little circle” kikeleh (pronounced KY-kul-uh). Before long, the immigration inspectors were calling anyone who signed with an O in place of an X a kikel or kikeleh or kikee, then eventually and concisely, kike.

      The debut of the
      O’ for a hug took place sometime between late-19th and early-20th century. But how the X’ and the O’ got together is a bigger mystery. Some hypothesise that the children game Tic Tac Toe brought them together.
       

      Others went even further with claiming that X’ means hugs and O’ means kisses since we say “hugs and kisses”. However, X being identified with a kiss is earlier than O being identified with a hug, so this one cannot be true.

      Apart from all this distant history, the more romantic and way simpler speculation I found is that X symbolises the lips being in kissing position as two faces, while the O represents an embrace as arms hugging seen from above. 



      On a parallel note, check The Real Origin of “It Will Cost You an Arm and a Leg” for yet another historical story. 


      And now you know the whole drill. xoxo


       

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      Tuesday 9 September 2014

      Artists Between Mindset and Motivation



      From my own experience dealing with many sorts of artists those last few years, I can deduct that a significant portion of them are afraid of failure as much as they are afraid of success. Like any kind of fear, this contains and limits them. It cripples them through their artistic journey.

      The main problem with such people is that they worry too much about the outcome of their work. Be it commercialising their art, obsessing about what others will think of it or how they’ll criticize it, or perhaps because they are seeking perfection, the worry does take away from their creativity. It dulls their shine, which naturally keeps them stuck in a quagmire of unaccomplishment, frustration, and lack of motivation.


      But why is that so? And what’s the difference between those artists and others who “make it”?




      Artsy Arty Art



      Art is rebellious in nature. Apart from creativity and imagination, it’s a skill that needs guts and courage, which usually reflects on one’s lifestyle. In truth, if you have the guts to call yourself an artist, then you are one. It’s about how you perceive yourself. It’s as simple as that.

      Many of the ones I have met seemed to lack the courage. They are too shy. It feels like they are afraid to shine; like they cannot believe they will make it. And this attitude shows on their behaviour and attitude. We attract what we have in mind; and if that is fear-based, then what we’ll attract will be on the same frequency.  

      Such people may not have enough self confidence — or freedom — needed to be artists who can excel in what they do. Without shine, artists lose an essential preliminary to become stars. If one really wants to be great, he or she should stop asking for permission.

      When it comes to art, the differentiation between mindsets can sometimes be informally explained as the “starving artist” mindset and the “thriving artist” mindset (shown below). Or, as the featured infograph distinguishes; successful and unsuccessful.

      The good news is, most of our limits are self-generated. Mindsets could be fixed, and the unsuccessful can become successful by changing some habits and perceptions.

      On a parallel note, The Writing Process and the Creative Block is a more thorough exposé of mine about creativity in general and how to overcome creative blocks. Choosing Art Over Corporate and Academia is another. Then there is Some Soulful Artists Quotes.





      Intrinsic and Extrinsic Motivations



      To be motivated is to be moved to do something. There is a certain inspiration that energizes the act. People have different amounts of motivation towards different things. They also have different kinds of it.

      Let us see what psychology has to say about that.


      According to the Self-Determination Theory, there is a distinction between two different types of motivations. This is not only in arts, but in every aspect of life.

      One, is the Extrinsic Motivation, which occurs when we are motivated to perform a behaviour or engage in an activity in order to earn a reward or to avoid a punishment. It is not representative of oneself; for it arises from the outside.

      The traditional emphasis on external rewards such as grades, report cards, and gold stars is indoctrinated into us since birth. Whether it’s our parents, teachers, bosses, or religion, we are constantly reminded that external rewards can induce interest and participation in something the individual may have no initial interest in.

      How many people work just for the paycheck or pray merely out of fear of going to hell? Even more so, how many kids clean their room or study or eat their vegetables so they don’t get punished? Or those who compete in a sport or a contest to win an award or scholarship? A whole lot.



      The second type is the Intrinsic Motivation. This, unlike the extrinsic, stems from within. It is self-determined. Intrinsic means it involves engaging in a behaviour because it is personally rewarding; essentially, performing an activity for its own sake rather than for some separable, external consequence like reward or pressure. Whether it involves work or play, intrinsic means motivated by inherent satisfactions such as fun, curiosity, and challenge. People with such motivation are more likely to be exposed to new ideas and to exercise new skills.


      Reading a book, playing an instrument, writing poetry, playing a sport or working on some project could all be examples of activities inspired by intrinsic motivation. They are fulfilling on their own, without the need of a reward, and definitely without the fear of punishment. Without caring too much about the outcome, the individual here is inspired from within to perform or create without the limitation that originates from extrinsic motivation. In such case, he or she has the potential to become an unstoppable force characterized by “indefatigable assiduity”.

      The freedom that comes from the intrinsic mindset usually entails high degree of individuality and originality, as well as a healthy dose of self-worth. In art, that’s a major benefit, which usually leads to standing out and possibly also to brilliance if enough hard work is achieved.


      Numerous studies have actually shown that offering excessive external rewards for an already internally rewarding behaviour can lead to a reduction in intrinsic motivation, a phenomenon known as the Overjustification Effect.

      The actual fact that a reward is expected when one performs an activity or does good can subconsciously undermine any existing intrinsic motivation that people might have. Because if I’m used to getting a reward for what I do, what would make me do it if I stop getting rewarded? Probably I won’t do it, you see, and that will not be beneficial for me and/or for others. 


      Much more on extrinsic/intrinsic motivation can be found in this contemporary psychology Paper by Richard M. Ryan and Edward L. Dec of University of Rochester. 





      Let It Shine



      Whether for play or work, humans need motivation to achieve things. Extrinsic and intrinsic motivation are both important ways of driving behaviour, yet they differ in essence as we have seen. They also vary in achieving success.

      In case of artists, some of them alternate between both mindsets. Others fully engage in their own art as a passion of the heart, not thinking of, or maybe not even desiring, external rewards. And some others, like the ones I mentioned, are stuck obsessing about results, rewards, and opinions.  

      In reality, there is not one single way to be a successful artist. But one thing is for sure, being talented isn’t enough to shine. Many people are talented and skilled, but this must be coupled with an inner will to create as well as with perseverance. I believe that’s what makes the difference between those who make it and those who remain unknown; those who are passionate and in love with what they do and those who aren’t so sure they are doing the right thing.

      My advice to those contained artists is to let go of your fears and worries. Get creative without boundaries. As you work, try to forget the reward, it will come later. Try to forget the rules. There is nothing wrong with setting goals and wanting to develop oneself, actually you must shine to succeed in this field. But, overthinking the unknown can really hinder the creative process for an artist as it restricts them and creates mental blocks.

      A true artist is here on Earth to create. Create because you want to; because it makes you feel good. Summon your muse and indulge in it. If you’re doing it solely for the reward — money, fame, women or men — then maybe this fixation is standing between you and success.



      In summation, we have to encourage all artists. For they are how we get a glimpse of others’ realities. For me personally, I see that manifestation stemming from the fire within is much more potent than if it is caused by some external stimulus or incentive. The intrinsic behaviour here emanates from one’s sense of self. I write because I must write; because it gives me pleasure, not because I get paid for it or not.

      Then again, there is no one recipe to success. We’re all different and different people have different priorities in life. Anyone, however, can rethink their choices and change their perceptions if they are seeking different results.


      Always remember, we cannot create if we are afraid to fail. And fear is usually a liar. 



      “We artists are indestructible; even in a prison, or in a concentration camp, I would be almighty in my own world of art, even if I had to paint my pictures with my wet tongue on the dusty floor of my cell.”
      ― Pablo Picasso


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      Sunday 7 September 2014

      OLS Reflections Tre — The Mildly Unfun Ones






      • Screw your social ladder. I choose to levitate.

      • 


I often think of coursing in the course of my coarse language course.

      • 


Gladitude: The outlook or stance of being pleased for being thankful.




      • He just had his first buy experience; it was Rich!

      • An orgasm a day or two keep the doctor away from you.

      • 


Naming your son ‘Gaylord’ in an English-speaking country is like naming him ‘Baheeg’ in an Arabic-speaking one.




      • The sex was so good that even the neighbours had a cigarette then took a shower.

      • 


Anyone still wondering what was the ‘that’ which Meat Loaf wouldn’t do in 1993?

      • Next time someone asks me what I do I’ll say I’m an existentialist-turned-transcendentalist. And wait for that face.




      • I’ve turned the page so many times in me life that I have a permanent paper cut on me finger.




      • Oh crap! Wanting to get to the bottom of things, I wrote a hard letter to Doodoo the Poo at the sewage company #2 behind the boulder by the dump. It stinks that they wouldn’t publishit at the local paper towel because it’s fecal matter. What a waste, man, oh what a waste




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