When Selective Men Reject Women

Being a writer and drummer living the free Bohemian life on the beach sure has its perks. Being single in your late 30s in Los Angeles breeds even more options while widening your horizons. However, at some point in our lives we find that our priorities regarding dating and sex begin to change. It usually happens gradually, without one noticing.

After Why I Choose to Remain a Non-Dad for Now — Reflections on Being Childless, the following is another related topic which is based on personal experience, mine and others’.


Like all men, every now and then I have “guys talks”. Whether it’s an old friend, a neighbour, or at the drum circle, I’m often asked: So what happened with that girl/woman from last time? In some cases, I explain to them that [she] was interested to go back to my place, but I wasn’t; so I just left and went back home… alone. 



Now, almost every time I share this reoccurring happening I get weird looks from the guys. It’s like their eyes are speaking to me in a familiar macho language: How could you pass up such a chance? Who does that? You could have called me, you know, and I would have been happy to serve.



Looking back at my life and how guys talks go, one can confidently say that these reactions are actually quite universal throughout the masculine world, especially for single men. And one day I too may have been like that. In fact, during my teenage years I dated the first few girlfriends because they liked me, because they were available.

Later when sex was involved, it was also the female’s choice to agree or not to sleep with me. If that wasn’t the case, it would be called harassment or even rape and I would be in deep trouble. So just like the animal world, when it comes to the domain of flirting and sex it is usually the man who makes the first move while the woman is the one who gets to choose.

 As an evolutionary trait, it’s how things work since women invest more in their offspring.

Sometimes, however, things go the other way round; and it’s the woman who makes the first move. Perhaps in the light of the gender equality wave, this is happening more frequently nowadays.

Personally, I am no longer interested in sharing my time or energy with someone just because they happen to like me. It’s inconceivable to like everyone who like us, simply because “attractiveness standards” is a real thing. If there is no chemistry — be it physical, emotional, or mental connection — it’s better not to get into it. 

I had always been somewhat picky, yet I still used to listen to my penis-brain. Now with maturity one is more in control of that lower brain and urges, which tends to make you even more selective.  

The reality is, during sex there is a merge of energies between the partners. The intimacy makes this transference contagious. If they have positive energy you will feel uplifted afterwards; if it’s negative, you may feel weird for having ‘borrowed’ an energy which doesn’t vibrate with yours. When you’re in touch with your inner workings, you will be able to sense these chemical reactions and it would be almost impossible to disregard them. 

As such, it’s best to connect first before getting into bed. This is not to say that going wild every now and then at a party or with a random lustful stranger(s), or even getting a sensual massage, isn’t fun or worth the experience. But when it gets to everyday dating and building relationships, this is the approach I have been following: Seduce my mind and I’m yours. Despite having to occasionally deal with some women’s catty attitudes, this is how I am true to myself and to them. It’s actually how I virtuously bought my head when it comes to dating and sex. And it’s been working great ever since. 



As for the urges, masturbation could be way more fulfilling than sharing one’s energy and feeling awkward right after. Self-love is healthy and has many benefits. Besides, if you can’t love yourself, you won’t have the capacity to love others. In sexual terms, if you do not enjoy satisfying yourself, you will likely find it hard to satisfy others, or to enjoy sex in general. More about the topic can be found in the recent What’s the Story with Blue Balls (and Blue Vulva). 


That said, while females hitting on males may be a rarer event, it still happens to some. When, then, they are turned down because there is no attraction, sometimes they take the rejection personal and not too well. Even though I habitually make sure to do it nicely and politely, you can still sense a certain degree of hostility, often coupled with confusion. While with some we remain friends, others we rarely, if ever see each other again. Because in some cases rejected women can become so bitterly obnoxious, it is almost impossible to be just friends. It actually makes you grateful you found it out without having to go through all the trouble of dating them.

You see, guys are usually more horny and desperate for sex. This tends to make them more used to being rejected, so many just carry on with their lives when it happens. But it seems that when a woman is told ‘no’, she gets startled and doesn’t know how to act. When you think about it, even the less attractive ones can always find some man who’s ready to bed her — men are horny beasts, remember. So it makes logical sense that women assume that if they are agreeing to jump, the man should promptly ask: How high… or deep?

But the truth remains, women are equally bound to get rejected. And just like the other way round, men also do not owe those they reject any explaining. They do not have to word out certain things like: “You’re not my type or I think you’re too fat/skinny/boring, or it’s your lackluster essence”. Totally unnecessary. So best not get hurt or defensive, Ladies. Also, do not nag, wanting to know why he’s not into you. It won’t matter. Just realise you are not compatible, let it go then move on.

Generally speaking, rejection can happen between couples in ongoing relationships, between friends, or as I mean in this article, between people who just met. Emotional rejection hurts and can have dire implications on our psychological state, for men and women. This is chiefly due to the fact that humans are social animals who are constantly striving to be accepted.

In Emotional First Aid: Practical Strategies for Treating Failure, Rejection, Guilt, and Other Everyday Psychological Injuries, Guy Winch explains that the pain caused by rejection is deeply rooted in the make-up of the human psyche since much earlier times.

If you were living in a hunter/gatherer society, being ostracised meant death. For you couldn’t have survived without your tribe. Therefore we became wired to regard any rejection threat as a warning alert, which triggers us to change our behaviour in order to avoid being ostracised.

A scientific reason why rejection can be so agonising is what studies have shown regarding social rejection and physical pain triggering the same region in the brain. So our body here reacts the same to both situations. As a response, the brain releases its own natural pain killers — the opioids — to make you feel better. 

In clinical psychology, the associated syndrome is called Rejection Sensitivity (RS); defined as “the tendency to “anxiously expect, readily perceive, and overreact to social rejection.” 

Some people are more sensitive to being rejected; others deal with it better. But the resulting unhealed pain could be traumatic and may get worse by triggering a ‘fear’ of rejection, which is capable of jeopardising their future relationships and can further lead to social anxiety and depression.

Interestingly, more studies have found that being rejected by an attractive man makes a woman more likely to turn down an unattractive one. She does so to counter-balance the rejection by using the novel opportunity to restore her self-worth. Huh. 

For the man to reject a woman who’s into him shows that he is confident and satisfied with what he’s got; that he doesn’t need her. Because, for one, he is capable of mastering his penis-brain. Two, she may not be his taste, simply. 

Or perhaps in case he is some kind of creative artist, she may have read or viewed his work and thought she knew (liked) him, despite the fact that he may not know anything about his female fan. 

Whether it’s dating or sex, when a selective man has the courage — and taste — to reject a woman, consequences follow right through. He gains a certain superiority over himself and his masculine ego. He also conquers his horniness which usually controls most men. Naturally, the availability of the choice strengthens his self-worth while at the same time builds and deepens his character.

Further, on the level of societal norms, this choice shatters the conventional paradigm of leaving it for women to choose. If we are both equal as a significant portion of us want to agree, then as a man, I, too, should also have the luxury to choose. 


Just as women are confused by rejection, lots of guys can’t seem to wrap their head around the notion. Many, including some of those I have had those guys talks with throughout the years, have never rejected a woman. If a woman wants to have sex with you, why would you say no? As mentioned, this mentality is a repeated theme in the masculine universe. But it doesn’t have to be this way.


At the very end, if you are a man, know that you can reject a woman without having to feel bad about it. Also know that you can do so without having to explain yourself. Just be decent and honest and she will at least respect you for that. If you are a woman who has been rejected or will get there someday, do not let it bother you. It certainly does not mean that you are unwanted or that there is something wrong with you, so best not to take it personal. Remember that life as we know is constantly evolving and so should we.


Be choosy — it’s beneficial for the gene pool of our species. 

“Give me more wine or leave me alone.”

— Rumi 

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Who Are We?

What Being Conscious Means

Personal Questions I'm Often Asked and Their Answers

What Being Conscious Means

We often hear about being conscious and aware. It is usually linked to “waking up” and becoming illuminated. There is actually a writing category here on One Lucky Soul labelled: Conscious Living. But what does being, and becoming, conscious truly mean? And what are the implications does it have on one’s life?

In simple terms, being conscious means being mindful; it means being aware, attentive, and responsive to one’s surrounding; awake. In the sense of “being aware of wrongdoing”, the word originated in the 16th Century from Latin conscius “knowing with others or in oneself”, from conscire “be privy to”.

Before delving into the topic and to portrait the idea in more practical terms, the following are examples from everyday life which had reminded me by what being conscious is. 
It is interesting to note that most of these observations only came to me later as I was reflecting upon the notion. But during the time they took place, it never felt like I was doing anything unusual or unnatural. It was indeed the total opposite; it felt so right and natural. It simply felt like the conscious thing to do, without seeking certain reward or fearing any punishment. 

1- Reusable Grocery Bags

Once in Los Angeles I was going to the grocery store with my uncle who’s in his early 80s, when we forgot to bring the empty bags. I wanted to turn around to go get them but he said: “It’s OK, the bag is only for five cents.”

I didn’t say anything then, though I was reminded that this is not the only reason why I like reusable bags. But it’s for conservation, recycling, saving the tress and all that. When we buy new ones we go home and usually throw them in the garbage or keep them in drawers which are already full of unused bags. So, the Big Picture wins.


2- Recycling and Removing Dog Poop in Egypt

Be the change. The rest will follow.

Speaking of which, after recycling my trash and picking up after my dogs for five years in Canada and the U.S, it seems there is no going back. Once I went back to Egypt for a visit, it felt absurd not to do so. So even though I didn’t have to, but I wholeheartedly wanted to. I actually felt compelled to do it.

One day as I was picking up after Shakira, my cousin’s sweet Cocker Spaniel, three foreigners in the street looked at me like I’m from a different solar system. The garbage man, who has to sort the garbage by hands, must have been equally startled to find two separate bags.

3- Not Throwing Bubblegum Without Cover

How it’s done in Japan

During the same trip to Egypt I attended a reunion with lots of school boys. We were catching up and talking about those of us who are living abroad. Apparently after living in Japan for a while, one mate doesn’t throw bubblegum on the ground anymore. They found out about it when he was with them once somewhere in Cairo and, after he was done with his gum, he took out a folded note from his pocket so that he can ‘safely’ discard it. Of course for anyone who grew up and lived all their lives in Egypt, this may seem hilarious, yet also impressive. 



In fact, gum containers in Japan come with a little pad of post-it note for your discarded gum. How thoughtful are these Japs. Or should I say conveniently say: How conscious.

I have been doing the same with the occasional smoke butts, even on the beach. I’m trying my best to be honest.



4- Not Killing Insects

What ignited this was a single experience that took place when I was 20 and camping somewhere in Sinai. I happened to squash a tiny teeny ant and kill it, but because I was tripping on LSD and in a higher state of consciousness, this was phenomenally touching. It changed my perspective and made me think about how other creations look at us. Since then, I think 17 times before killing one.

After some careful observation throughout later years, I realised how a fly stuck in a room will always cooperate with us if we want to kick it out than if you want to kill it. Because, it’s mere instinct. The same goes for ants and other insects.

Truly, now when I see an insect the last thing on my mind is to run looking for a repellent or a shoe. If I can’t kick them out peacefully, I catch and release instead. With practice, I have actually become quite good at it. 



Eventually I got so interested in our cousins that I wrote three full articles about how ants carry their dead as well as other nest-mates as means of transportation.
 You can read about the madness Here, Here, and There.



5- Closing The Tap While Brushing Teeth

This only began later in life when I was in Los Angeles during the California drought of 2014. As mentioned, some of these simple transformations take you by surprise, and that’s why, again, I wrote an article about it: How inspiration Is Transferable.

An additional reminder came to me when I took a break from writing this piece and went to have dinner at the local Lemonade. Along with my food, I picked up four tiny salt and pepper packets and put them on the tray, but I only used one of each. So when I was done and about to throw what’s on the tray in the garbage, I remembered those two unused packets and proceeded in putting them back to where they belong instead of wasting them.




You see how small these acts are? But it’s the collective of minute individual changes that eventually makes the difference. After a while you do not think about doing these acts; your attentiveness to your surrounding is just there. And if you follow through it, you will find that you will lead a happy and peaceful life. Simply because down, deep, inside you know you are connected to the whole and you know you are doing your share. Not because you are forced or required, but because you want to…because being conscious makes you feel alive and in-sync with the Natural Order.

Now that you have a better idea about our topic, let us dive a tad deeper.

Oftentimes we find the numbers to be 90% subconscious
and 10% for the conscious

By beginning of 1680s, conscious meant “aware of one’s action” — a word of the English Enlightenment. This was a philosophical, intellectual, and cultural movement during the 17th and 18th Centuries, which stressed on the advantage of reason, logic, and freedom of thought over dogma and blind faith. The Enlightenment was the time when the notion of absolute authority of the church and state was openly rejected — hence sometimes referred to as The Age of Reason. 



This epochal movement was ignited by Les Philosophes in France, who were a group of literary men, scientists, and thinkers.

In the field of science, names like Francis Bacon, Isaac Newton, and Gottfried Leibniz are considered pioneers of The Enlightenment; in philosophy there is Descartes, Locke, Spinoza, Kant, and Voltaire.



It is similar to how several centuries earlier Leonardo da Vinci, Dante, Machiavelli, and Michelangelo were deeply associated with the Renaissance, which is widely regarded as an antecedent to The Enlightenment.

We can find the same happening much later when the Hippie Movement followed through Bohemianism in terms of borrowed ideas and ideals. More on that on this earlier exposé: Why Hippies Are Sometimes Called Bohemians.


Conscious brings us to another term, “self-conscious”. In psychology and philosophy, being self-conscious means: Having knowledge of one’s own existence, especially the knowledge of oneself as a conscious being. 



Paradoxically, self-conscious is also an adjective, meaning uncomfortable, uneasy, and embarrassed. This reminds me of a phenomenon eloquently explained by Alan Watts in The Book on The Taboo Against Knowing Who You Are. The title may be enough to give you a hint of what I mean here.

What I would like to note is, the word ‘conscious’ may have been new to language during The Enlightenment, but the concept of “knowing oneself” to reach enlightenment — or Illumination, Soul Liberation, Nirvana, Satori, The Source, The Invisible Piper... — was nothing new to humanity.

For Ancient Egyptians, we find the aphorism as: The Kingdom of Heaven is within you; and whosoever shall know himself shall find it.



For Ancient Greeks, it’s Gnothi Seauton; in Latin, Nosce Te Ipsum.



We also find it in Judaism as He is in all, and all is in him; in Christianity, it’s “Know Thyself”; and in Islam, especially Sufism, the emphasis on self-knowledge came in the form of “Who knows himself knows his Lord.” 



Equally in Buddhism: Look within, you are the Buddha; and in Taoism: In the death of the soil, one sees the Divine, the One.

Psychotherapy is one more school of thought that is based upon knowing oneself — the conscious self and its subconscious counterpart, which is “in charge” of the brain during a staggering 95 percent of the time.

My Journey Towards Self-Transcendence




Conscious also brings us to the act of “becoming conscious” — commonly portrayed as awakening. Because we are born conscious, in the sense of connected. But then by the time we grow up through all the conditioning, indoctrination, distractions, most of us lose this sense. If we are fortunate, later in life we may be given the chance to awaken and re-become who we essentially were. We do so by letting go of all that is not us.  

Awakening means different things to different people. Generally, it follows a big change in one’s life. This can happen spontaneously in an instant, perhaps as a result of a certain realisation or a mystical experience. Or it can happen throughout a longer period of time and through different stages, as with meditation and other esoteric practices. It could also be triggered through overcoming suffering or trauma, like abuse, addiction, or simply a divorce.



One thing remains certain, this self-transformation is not easy. 

We simply do not wake up one morning to find ourselves awakened, it does not just happen. Echoing with Carl Jung: “One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.”

Change, however, requires sincere work on the self, which not many people are willing to go through. That is mainly because they do not want to face their true selves and take full responsibility of their own lives.

The process of going through an awakening and “coming to consciousness” goes hand-in-hand with the evolution of this consciousness. 
It is usually a profound and worthy experience which guides us through the path of the transformation of the soul. It is the process by which we shed our old skin, open our eyes, and become aware and ‘knowing’. As Nietzsche reminds us, “The snake which cannot cast its skin has to die.”

When the level of consciousness is raised towards illumination — Enlightenment, Nirvana, Moksha... — one major transformation entails experiencing a constant state of unconditional love. Not towards anyone or anything in particular, but with Everyone and Everything. True love is directed outwards, yet it is ignited by loving ourselves first. 



When you come to truly know your self — your real higher Self — you cannot help but to love it, you see. When you do love yourself you tend to become conscious towards it; therefore you maintain a healthy mind, body, and soul. You consequently eat right, move right, and talk to yourself right. 



The same cycle also means empathy, compassion, and selflessness; seeing beyond the self. Someone who is truly conscious means they are capable of perceiving the bigger picture of things and the greater good.

 They understand, or come close to understanding, the true nature of reality. Echoing with Joseph Campbell’s word, “When we quit thinking primarily about ourselves and our own self-preservation, we undergo a truly heroic transformation of consciousness.”

This is not a mere philosophical stance, but as you have seen in the shared examples, it reflects everywhere on one’s life. When you feel you are one with the entire ocean, not a drop separated from it as it is commonly believed, you naturally become more loving and empathetic towards all bodies of water — as in others as well as yourself. This is where the beauty of Oneness lies.

A Dialectic With Myself: Practical Yin Yang Approach to Coincidentia Oppositorum is another exposé in which practicality is sought from within philosophy.

Metaphysically speaking, becoming conscious also means dropping the ego-self and embracing the Higher-Self — the real us, the soul.

Further, when one becomes conscious of their subconscious mind, they learn to be guided by some mysterious inner knowing — namely called intuition or inner gut — rather than rely solely on the confines of the conscious, rational mind and its senses. This knowledge lays beyond thoughts and words, or language in general; it cannot be taught, only discovered and realised within oneself. And the subconscious is the intuitive mind.

The revival of the intuition is one of the signs of higher consciousness. Intuition essentially means learning from within; in-sight, as inner seeing; a direct perception of truth. It is an untaught, non inferential insight and knowledge that partially comes from awareness, which makes it an essential element of mysticism discussed time and again by scientists, philosophers, and laymen alike.

Spinoza believed that intuition is the third kind of knowledge and is the highest kind attainable.



Later, Einstein said that “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant; we have created a society that honours the servant and has forgotten the gift.”


Jung considered intuition to be one of four basic psychic functions — along with sensation, feeling, and thinking — which are capable of becoming conscious. These functions are the methods employed by humans to acquire knowledge of themselves and the surrounding world. Cognition is not restricted to one function, but rather, each function provides its own kind of knowledge.

Nevertheless, intuition still remains commonly misunderstood and hard to define. Again, because it lays beyond the apprehension of the rational mind or even orthodox science.

However, the more you follow that inner knowing, the more the results come to your favour. Be it something as simple as finding a parking spot or as a big life decision, when you consider your intuition to be the wise knowledge of the collective Soul and you trust it, it will not lead you astray.

More ‘symptoms’ of a raised consciousness include heightened creativity, finding purpose in life, Wu Wei, discarding old beliefs that are no longer useful, the ability to chose certain thoughts over others and taming “The monkeys”, the ability to enjoy each and every moment — the Here and Now. 


One could go on forever talking about the subject, but this is not my initial intention. What is shared herein is only a minute portion of what is there to be written about the causes and effects of an awakening. 

I attempted to somewhat briefly show how being — and becoming — conscious is beneficial to you, and inevitably to the rest of us, to the world, and to the universe. And how that applies to our everyday lives. The lengthy, dense material shall be left for the book.

Remember that a single bubblegum can change the course of history. We are not just all in this together, we are This. Stay conscious. 


“Self-observation brings man to the realization of the necessity of self-change. And in observing himself a man notices that self-observation itself brings about certain changes in his inner processes. He begins to understand that self-observation is an instrument of self-change, a means of awakening.”
— George Gurdjieff

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Change Is The Only Constant

After I was done with some sunset beach drumming on the Northern Coast of Egypt, I happened to have a small chat with a couple of younger folks. They asked about the single event in my life which has forever changed me. I said drug addiction. Then as I later reflected upon this notion, I remembered how change is constantly in an ongoing perpetual motion; how everything is temporary and transitory and passes like the weather seasons; how change is the only constant. 






The essence of life is that it reveals itself moment by moment. When you carefully think about it, we are constantly changing. We cannot seem to grasp or sense the change as it happens, because we’re always in the midst of it. Only when time passes do we take notice that it had already occurred. But from moment to moment, everything is metamorphosing. You and I, for one, have changed after reading and writing those lines. 
 
As such, whenever we feel overwhelmed by many things we have to do one should simply take the very first step. For small daily improvements and innovations can lead to astounding achievements over time.


Like growth, change in general can be hard and painful. Though oftentimes it only looks as such on the surface. Being part of the unknown, people tend to be afraid of change. So they fight it, resist it, and try to control it. This resistance is what usually causes suffering; for it creates sorrow and disappointments. Change, however, only becomes hard and painful when resisted.

Change should simply be first dealt with acceptance. It is reality being manifested and we ought to naturally allow it by diving into it head first. One should never be afraid of change or new experiences, because this is how we grow and learn through life — how we evolve. 

Again, our whole life is based on change. From morning to night, from season to season, from year to year, everything is always growing and transforming. Yet life doesn’t stop.

Resisting change is like trying to resist nature: It will never work. What we can change are the variables. We can change our reality by changing ourselves, by changing our perspectives, as how we look at things. Echoing with George Bernard Shaw’s true words: “Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” Indeed, the biggest fool of all is he who is unwilling to change his own mind.

But in the end, we can only control what we have power over. The rest, is not up to us. Hence there is no reason to worry about any of it. Do you part and let life flow as it always will.

That said, the only way to fully live the change and the new experiences is by not resisting; by joining the unavoidable dance; by embracing the chance to grow and learn which they offer us, especially if we want the change to go smooth and eurhythmic. When we do so, we become at peace and in harmony with the nature of reality — synchronising with our ever-expanding universe. 

Change, as we have seen, remains the only constant. Yet we can neither change the past, nor our ancestors, family, culture, or the outdated modes of thinking we grew up being surrounded by. What we can do is find a new way of looking at the present moment — the Here and Now. The new perception will lead to new modes of thinking, behaving, and living. This is how our present hence our reality can be changed. The present will then shape our future. Anything other than leading by example through our own self-transformation is a waste of time, energy, and life. For our journey is not about confronting or fighting old paradigms. The key is to create new, more evolved paradigms which will make the current ones obsolete.

A reminder of Buckminster Fuller piercing quotes: “You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”


On that same note, it does feel reassuring to contemplate the fact that progress is rarely linear. As time goes by, matters are constantly reshaped. They take new forms and frames, which often reveals new paths, directions, destinations among other possibilities and opportunities. This makes growth an ever-evolving process.

 
Every once in a while we will probably be required to make one major big step; yet most of the time the advancement and growth happen little by little. The small changes add up and we never get ‘there’ overnight — wherever your ‘there’ is.  

In the psycho-philosophical piece Theory of Mind: Thinking About Thinking and the Benefits of Observing the Observer, there are much more detailed insights about change and transformation, exploring topics like Neuroplasticity, Epigenetics, and Placebo among others.  



Sitting alone on this gorgeous Mediterranean beach, I went on with my contemplation. I remembered how during my 20s, the major ‘event’ was experimenting with psychedelics. Then it was the drug addiction. And then working in the corporate world for 10 years, followed by leaving my comfort zone and travelling to the unknowns of the other side of the world. Then again it was the decision to take Arts in general and writing in particular as vocations. 
So it is a culmination of choices and experiences, one could say. Yet I never let any of them define me.

Ten years from now, most likely there will be another event or two. Because, everything is continuously and persistently changing. This, as I conceive, is what having a full eventful life is about.

“The snake which cannot cast its skin has to die. As well the minds which are prevented from changing their opinions; they cease to be mind.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche

“Medius Terra” — North Coast of Egypt

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